The Mundanity of Fear
Woman Unleashed - A Personal Journey of Perspective and Change
I am an immigrant…
I just got dressed, it’s Sunday, it’s a beautiful sunny day. I’m about to head out to water our garden, so I’m throwing on clothes that I don’t normally wear (the hose is dirty and I don’t want to mess up my “good” tee-shirts”.) I put on my “I Am An Immigrant” shirt. My shameful secret…I’m afraid to wear this shirt outside, in public. Don’t get me wrong, I’m proud of the fact that I’m an immigrant, of my Irish heritage, and of my story, but I hate, with a passion, confrontation
Be Heard at Work: How to be Confident and Speak Up
I grew up as a gay woman in Ireland when it was under the rule of the Catholic Church, literally. Oh, and I didn’t drink tea or alcohol, so three strikes against me! I learned early that to live inside the box that people expected me to live in wouldn’t work for me, so I forged my own path. I had a fabulously strong mother for my female role-model, and learned kindness from my father. I was always championing people’s causes but was cautious to not draw attention to the fact that I was gay. I rebelled with my hair and my clothes but was a supportive and kind friend to anyone who needed me. I am independent yet needing of acknowledgement by others, that “pat on the back” that says you’re doing a good job...
The Confidence Curve
A Harvard Business School study found that one of the most common reasons managers cite for not promoting women is that they didn’t appear CONFIDENT enough to do the job...not competent, confident. So, they thought we could do the job, but didn’t think we believed we could do it! Mel Robbins talks about this phenomena in this insightful video for Success Magazine. Lack of confidence - or the appearance of such - has a material impact on your career.
You are not limited by your current circumstances
When I was a kid I thought I could fly. I have actual memories of flying, floating really, down the stairs in the home I grew up in. As children, most of us felt invincible, we could do or be anything, we had no sense of mortality or limit. Remember how high we would swing? What happens to that sense of wonder, that knowing that you can do anything, even if it seems impossible? Did we even know what unstoppable was? Sometimes we revisit that place, that sense in our dreams so why not while we are awake?
Kindness Revolution Part II
Whatever your situation that you feel stuck in, I’m here to tell you that you are not limited by it…but you may be limited by your belief about it!
The challenge for all of us, I believe, is this. How can we make our world/country/state/ county/city/town/street a better place for all its inhabitants? How can we become part of a solution instead of amplifying the problem? It's about channeling your energy into something positive.
It's not every day someone walks into your life to flip the whole thing upside down
For me, one of my fondest memories is being taught to ride my bike by my Dad. The feeling of pure joy when I realized that he had let go of the back of the bike and I was doing it by myself was amazing!!! In my life now, I need to allow myself to acknowledge my accomplishments and enjoy the feeling, instead of wondering if I could have done better. How about you?
I'm incredibly lucky to have many people who fall into this category so I'm going to focus on 5 of them & tell a brief story of how they changed my life. All of these people allowed me to open up & grow and I am forever grateful. I hope to inspire you to see that change and growth come in many forms and from places you don't necessarily expect.
How to be the boss of your emotions in this political climate
How do new levels of self-confidence, self-knowledge, or courage sound?
I feel like many of us know what we should be doing, we should mediate, we should talk kindly to ourselves, we should accept the thanks and the compliments that come our way…but we don’t, not always.
Play to your Strengths people!
In this article I share some ideas on how to forgive our friends, loved ones, and colleagues for the stuff that’s been uncovered or stirred up during this unusually divisive political climate.
I don’t know about you, but I’m growing tired of all of the negativity and hateful rhetoric on the news, online, basically everywhere these days. It seems that the loudest, most negative voices are the ones that get the most press. Here’s the thing…we can counter it with voices of hope, positiveness and change. One way to do that is to understand what your unique strengths are and approach things from a place of positivity, not fear and insecurity.
I’ve spent much of the last week interviewing people who want to make positive changes in the world. Their ideas are wide and varied and I was blown away by that. You see, I, like many others (I suspect), have their own ideas about what “changing the world” means and we can’t imagine all of the ways that others are thinking of. Here’s what I believe… we all have an idea, or many ideas, of how the world could be better. Some of us act on those ideas (thank you!), and some of us don’t. We don’t for many reasons, this article outlines a few, then provides info & action!